So with one daughter heading into middle school I decided to have “the talk”. Everybody has experiences with their parents that are either positive or negative. Let’s just say my 5 minute conversation on the subject wasn’t something to be passed down and I resolved at an early age to do better. I refuse to let my kid’s sexual education come from her classmates or YouTube.
FIRST THING – just HAVE the talk. Don’t be afraid to say something wrong…. or let fear scare you out of having the conversation. At 10 I’m sure that I’ll be surprised by what she knows already. My hope is to separate the truth from the false and continue to expand my ability to have honest conversations with my kids.
First move – I’m going to tell her that we’re going to have a conversation about sex. I’m going to let her know that it’s probably going to be several conversations. I’m going to try and keep the first conversation short and pretty much answer her questions. I don’t want to attack her for 3 hours with diagrams and flip charts. I feel like breaking the ice on the subject will ease any anxiety she might have and give her a chance to form additional questions.
The other thing I’m trying to explain is their is a emotional side to sex also. Especially in the fact that boys and girls think about this things differently. This includes our values when it comes to sex and what we feel is wrong or right.
You will never be able to restrict access to everything relating to sex. The moment you try to do this your child will push back or find a way to access this information. This is natural. Just begin a conversation about some of the basic dos and don’ts relating to sharing information with others especially when it comes to your child online. Remember, once it’s out there their is no taking it back.
I’ll let you know how it goes 🙂
I want to EAT my baby
Own your own business
So I had a customer come in the other day talking about how her husband was graduating from Life College soon. The question was whether or not he should take a position with a established business or open his own. Here is a simple way to think of it….
It’s like having a baby.
How so? Remember when you were pregnant and thought you knew everything there was to know about babies. You read the books and everything online. You bought all the necessary baby stuff. You talked to everyone you knew about the in’s and out’s. YOU HAD IT DOWN!
Then you had the baby and realized you didn’t know anything. There is soooooo much that you didn’t know till you actually had a baby. There is no substitute for the experience.
Same thing with starting your own business. Here’s a simple one. How do you calculate rent on a space that you want to lease for a business? Take the (square footage) x (dollar per square foot) / (12 months).
2000 sq ft x $20 sq ft /12 months = $3,333 per month
Simple right? Here are some of the things we didn’t calculate. CAM = another $200-$400 month. Is the CAM (Common Area Maintenance) capped? Term of the lease (3-100 years?). How much does it escalate over the term of the lease? Does it carry a percentage rent clause? Tenant improvement allowance? Build out allowance? Personally guarantee needed? HVAC clause for A/C Heating?
This only scratches the surface of the LEASE. This doesn’t even hit any other aspects of owning your own business.
What I tried to tell our dear chiropractic friend was simply this….. Take the time to work in a privately owned business in a industry you’re trying to get into. Treat it like your own and try to make IT successful. Absorb everything that comes your way and then you’ll be better prepared for your first attempt.
Hope this helps and you have fun with your first baby.. I mean business.